Have you ever hit your partner? Have you ever been abusive?
It is difficult to face up to the fact that your behaviour could be abusive, but when you begin to accept what you are doing, you can begin to make changes that will help you be safe around your partner and your children.
Even if they’re not in the same room, children always know something is happening. That something is wrong. This is damaging to a child and can have long-term effects. Aside from ruining your relationship, abusive behaviour puts you at risk of not being able to see your children and makes it a real possibility that the police will become involved with your family
Facing up to it
Many people excuse their behaviour by minimising what they are doing: ‘it’s not that bad’, blaming their partner – ‘they wound me up’, saying it’s because of other pressures such as work or by blaming alcohol, or momentary loss of control. This can make you feel better in the short term. However, acknowledging this and taking responsibility for your behaviour is a positive step towards changing your behaviour.
What can you do about it?
Places that help:
Men Standing Up – www.bradfordcyrenians.org.uk/men-standing-up
Making Safe – 01723 365 609
IDAS- 03000 110 110
Respect Help line which offer advice, information and support to help you stop being violent and abusive to your partner – 0808 802 4040